Men, Rejoice!

Here’s more good news I received while I was listening to John Gray (of Mars and Venus fame)! To be happy and fulfilled, men need to increase their testosterone levels. One would think from things we’ve heard that increased testosterone would lead to being aggressive or combative. But no! It leads to men who feel they are satisfied, whole, and useful! Wow! Isn’t that a great idea! Men you’re going to love this. I might even go against everything your partner nags you about!

Here’s what Dr. Gray recommends for men:

  • Play hard and work hard.
  • Do things that have a sense of urgency.
  • Then sit on the couch and let your body replenish. You’ll be a great guy for doing this!
  • Watch sports if you don’t play sports!
  • Play tennis or some competitive activity (be it chess or basketball).
  • Offer help.
  • Have great sex.
  • Solve problems.
  • Be her champion!

What a fun list to explore. Men, isn’t your list just what you wanted to hear. Imagine! The prescription you need after a day of fighting the good fight is to sit on the couch! Did you know that was what would make you feel fulfilled? After all those macho activities, be sure to sit down and let your body replenish!

Blessings on all of us!

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Women, Rejoice!

This week I was listening to John Gray (of Mars and Venus fame) and once again heard his message that will fill the hearts of women! To be happy and fulfilled, we women need to increase our oxytocin levels. If you have children, you might remember the feeling you had when you held your darling baby. That luscious, melting, wonderful feeling is a result of oxytocin.

How do we get more of that? You’ll love this list! Here are the ways that Dr. Gray suggests we raise our oxytocin levels:

  • Do things that have no pressure, obligation, or regret.
  • Have unrushed conversation about the good things in your life.
  • Be understood. Ask the listener to hear but not speak. Avoid problem-solving with this one.
  • Get a massage.
  • Receive great sex.
  • Ask for help.
  • Go for a 45 minute walk that does not make you out of breath.
  • Go shopping! Make it a leisurely browse and maybe even stop and have tea with a friend.

What a fun list to explore. Men, you will love your list too. It’s next!

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The Coop

Chicken coops can be made of found debris or carefully purchased materials or ordered from the internet as a kit to assemble. I love the found stuff idea and even had a plan in mind for making a coop under our deck but I got stuck thinking about how to make such a dwelling safe from predators.

Then I saw The Coop of my dreams!

Chicken coop.jpg_thumbMy chicks would love such a coop. “Oh, the expense!” However, I did want to show it to Jim and he said, “Would that make a good birthday present?” Why yes, it would (even if my birthday is 6 weeks away and the chicks will need their coop before that)!

So I ordered the coop and started to plan where to put it. With the chicks still happily pooping in their crate on the dining room table,

2 Weeks Old

I could hardly imagine relegating them to the back yard where I could see them without a trip downstairs! So, I investigated the little bit of land outside our dining room. The backdrop is a fence overgrown with ivy, but I could see that reclaiming the land would actually work.

Next came waiting patiently while the rain stopped and finally, that day arrived. Actually a whole week of sunshine was predicted. I was a little overwhelmed by the black and white directions I printed so I printed them again in color. Things were a little clearer.

Over the next three days, I hacked away the jungle and assembled the coop. It’s perfect sitting there outside the dining room!

Our Coop

Today, the chicks get their first outing for the hour that the sun hits the coop! Can’t wait.

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I took this video seconds after I added a “practice” roost to the chix crate.

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Chick Day 3

Ping and sistersI swear those babies grow right before our eyes! I got worried that one of the black chicks was possibly a rooster and spent hours researching about her, finally to be relieved — she’s a girl.

What’s it like to have four baby chicks living on your dining room table? Well, I sit there and read while eating breakfast and lunch. They seem to enjoy that because they watch me through the plastic crate they live in for a few more days! Yikes, they’ll need a bigger box soon.

No one walks through our dining room without a little peek at them, and they often respond with their sweet little peeps. You might wonder just how many people walk through our dining room? That’s a reasonable question. This time of year, lots of people come to our house for rehearsals for the Jazz and Pop concert. Penny simply can’t resist and Penny’s friends have little kids who want to see the chicks. These chicks are really getting acclimated to people!

During the first few hours I kept checking to see if they were breathing; just as I did when my daughters were born! Now, I trust these tiny creatures to breathe on their own. Isn’t it amazing that at birth they stand and walk and find the feeder and waterer. I hear they often need a little help learning to drink; ours came already drinking, but I did watch carefully to see that each one of them took those little sips and then tilted her head back making a kissy movement as she swallowed. It’s so adorable!

Marlowe, our shared dog has been fabulous. Sometimes he pays attention to the cheeping, but mostly he hangs around me. When we have visitors who are cooing at the babies, he gets a little jealous and whines and tries to look at them too. I think he really enjoys the extra attention he gets and to be honest, he’s giving me more attention too, just so I don’t forget him.

Chicken coop.jpg_thumbAll-in-all, it’s a lovely process and I look forward to being able to take them outside in another week or so. By then, the new coop will have arrived and we can confine them in the run. Of course, we still have to decide where the coop will go and then put it together. This is something I love doing, so I can hardly wait for FedEx to show up. Tomorrow.

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The Chicks Are Here!

Day 1Whatever possessed me to think I could go look at the chicks and not take them home? When I was confronted with the info that all the hatcheries in the country are out of chicks (it’s Easter!) I decided not to wait for the exact kind I wanted and to buy these little beauties.  That’s Ping drinking water, Beak Habib hiding behind the feeder, and Watson and Crick hunkering down with the chick crumble.

What have I learned already? Baby chicks are adorable. I got the chickens as much for their presence as for their eggs. They are a lure to get people to oooh and aaah. And that’s the first thing I notice about how backyard chickens can improve health. There’s nothing like a kitty, a puppy, or a box of chickies to reduce stress and help people get in touch with what’s really important in life!

Penny and I remembered all the equipment needed to have a brooder: water and feed distribution, wood shavings, and a heat lamp. We came home loaded and full of good cheer. I bought the quintessential book on raising chickens and did a quick brush up on new chick info. We were lucky. These chicks already knew how to eat and drink – after all they had been competing with 200 other sisters for two days before we brought them home.

The only unknown is whether we got a rooster. That’s a no no in an urban environment and apparently determining the sex of a baby chick isn’t an exact science. We know from the breeds that three of them are girls. The only one in doubt is Crick. Funny, she’s the littlest on and she’s a Jersey Giant!

Well, that’s the news from Hale’s Not-Even-an-Acre. More to come.

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Doing what has Heart and Meaning

Lately, I’ve been exploring what has heart and meaning for me. I loved all my years of coaching but I got tired of the marketing part of it – and without marketing, new clients don’t show up very often. Later, I thought I’d use my computer and internet knowledge to help people improve their health through network marketing of products I personally use and love. But that was just more marketing with less  reward – and a side helping of feeling like I needed to convince people about something. I was ready to leave all that behind and spiral up to something else.

Throughout the summer I’ve been exploring my heart. What do I love to do? What makes me happy? What’s fun? Well, I’ve just finished a project that was really fun and I hope will have long-term rewards. I created a roof garden. I started paying attention to what I think about. When I travel, I look at farms and wonder what’s growing and figure out what phase the crops are in. At home, food is one of my main mental activities. I love thinking about food – how it grows, where to get it, how to prepare it, and who to eat it with.

tomatoI also got hooked on a Facebook game called Farm Town and that got me thinking about how much I like to think about growing things. Alas, I live in Berkeley, directly across the bay from the Golden Gate Bridge, which means the fog rolls in and stops at my house. In addition to that, there’s shade in almost every part of my yard. Over the years, I’ve learned about flowers that grow in the shade, but I know from sad experience that vegetables planted in shade get very “leggy” and don’t produce much that’s edible.

I had pretty much given up on vegetable gardening, at the same time, I longed to grown my own organic produce. One day, I was on my roof deck and thought – this is the only place on our property where there is sun! A dream was born. I ordered half wine barrels and got started. I lugged soil from the garden store and compost from my many years of backyard composting. Eventually, I planted seedlings and just yesterday I completed a drip system to keep the whole thing fairly maintenance free.

Given that I have all this sunshine and water, I’ve moved some sun-loving under-achieving plants to add color and interest to the farm. The bougainvillea is delighted, and so am I! The struggling tomatoes are ripening faster. And the sprawling pepper plant is hopeful (it hopes and I hope) – maybe a pepper will appear.

In the past, I’ve used these articles to make a little coaching lesson. So here it is:

  1. Pay attention to what you think about.
  2. Notice what lights you up.
  3. Stop doing things that dull you down.
  4. Figure out how to have more lightening in your life!

I’m having fun, are you?

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Life’s Metaphors

I’ve been quiet for awhile – some travel, some needing to regroup, some time to think. During that quiet time, I’ve been playing a game on Facebook. I’ve found that Farm Town is a huge metaphor for life! First, I wanted more fun and creativity, and I sure got it with Farm Town. I’ve never much like computer games, but this one is more a community experience than a game.

One of the fields on my farm.One of the fields on my farm.

Sure there are levels and points, but they don’t mean a lot in terms of competition – at least, not for me. But the metaphors keep coming. At first it was how to I maximize my resources. Next came needing help and asking for it. Next came making small talk at the Marketplace. Eventually, I reached a comfort level when I didn’t have to plan what to plant in order to have enough coin for a house or barn or what-have-you. I had abundance.

Lately, since I’ve amassed nearly everything I want on the farm, I asked myself, “How do I stay interested?” This is a real life metaphor for me – right now. On the farm, I started planting patterns, like quilt patterns. Also, all along, I’ve been mentoring newbies. What I see is that being friendly, creative, and helpful are real roles I play in life. I’ve been playing those roles a lot. You see, I decided to retire from internet and network marketing. And Farm Town is a good transition.

It’s computer-based, so I don’t have to go through withdrawal by staying away from the instrument that has been a major part of my life for 25 years. But it isn’t isolating. I have more interaction now on the computer than I have had in real life and that has helped me get out of my geeky self and into being with people. I am more social and chatty and far more at ease than I have been in years.

I suspect that Farm Town will lose its appeal in the near future. But who knows, maybe another metaphor will crop up :-) and I will stay engaged for longer than I imagine. Whatever the future holds, I am totally thankful for this enjoyment. It has also propelled me into my own neglected yard where I can put real sweat equity and reap great benefits. My neighbors have already noticed.

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The Brothers Hale

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Need a Laugh?

Here’s a great short video, guaranteed to brighten your day!

Enjoy!

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